Q-Continuum

In response to:A strange Juxtaposition

Sun, 05 Oct 2008 20:59:24 +0200

You are so right. And needs to go after the correct ones

In response to:A strange Juxtaposition

Sat, 16 Feb 2008 23:38:40 +0100

I couldn't agree more. I think Africa is probably the worst place to be at this time in history. That man in the street needs help in re-evaluating his life!

In response to:It's been a long road back.

Wed, 02 Jan 2008 01:26:29 +0100

I was going to give you MM's info but tentative gave it you So here is to a better new year. Lets hope we all go forward better than ever.

In response to:It's been a long road back.

Wed, 02 Jan 2008 01:14:42 +0100

Here's hoping this is a much, much better year for you!! I have missed you... funny how you can miss someone you've never met, but I can and do!

Meno's now RunDontWalk (long story...) and her blog is http://menomamauk.blog.co.uk/

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sun, 19 Aug 2007 18:30:10 +0200

I'm sure things will look up eventually. Time is a healer.

In response to:A parting of the ways

Wed, 08 Aug 2007 19:24:21 +0200

depression is one big problem.i suffer from it from time to time.basically it is feeling that you do not exist,your existence has no meaning/value/you feel unimportant/not having achieved anything.read read read.meditation/reiki/real yoga -notjust the postures.everyone has their part to play.nothing is unimportant/valueless.there is a time and place for everything.i wish your friend all the best.cheer up.have a dog.they make you feel wonderful,especially the affectionate ones

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sun, 05 Aug 2007 08:41:37 +0200

I've taken a while to get round to replying, sorry.

But I do want to say, that I understand, completely. You were right to tell your partner to seek help.

I suffer from (sometimes, not always) severe depression, and can't afford treatment (and when I could, my state's idea of "treatment" was a bit dodgy, at times), but I have found other ways to self-treat--like blogging, and finding positive outlets, taking vitamins, etc. I also made a deliberate choice to not have a relationship, because I worry about hurting (emotionally) someone I care about with my behaviour.

While it is important to someone with depression to have their friends, partners and family accept their condition--it is vital that depression be treated. It may not be preventable, and there is no cure, but it can be held in check rather well, with the right combination of drug(s) and therapy.

If someone with depression refuses treatment, without any grounds to feel that way (such as a bad experience(s)) or complete denial of their condition), then there's nothing more you can do.

I wish you all the best at this troubling time. I hope you can find a way to cope and get through this. Take care. Playwrite27

In response to:A parting of the ways

Tue, 24 Jul 2007 22:13:41 +0200

I'm sorry - it's really difficult living with someone with depression.

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sat, 21 Jul 2007 23:26:43 +0200

I'm sorry.
xxxxx

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sat, 21 Jul 2007 21:33:40 +0200

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sat, 21 Jul 2007 20:33:31 +0200

truly sorry to hear he wasnt willing to get help. Been through depression myself and the utter joy of being able to say I enjoy life to the full after going through psychology never ever fails to make me smile. Even through the bad times that still happen in my life, as it does everyones, I can still raise a smile. It sounds like you did everything you could to help him but if you hadnt parted ways there would have been 2 of you feeling hopeless rather than 1.

Big big love to you
Jill
xxx

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sat, 21 Jul 2007 18:19:02 +0200

very sorry to hear your news but it sounds like you've done the right thing.
i hope you stay strong, and don't beat yourself up.
best wishes.

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sat, 21 Jul 2007 15:34:45 +0200

Obviously I don't know you very well but I still wanted to say I'm truly sorry to hear this news. Any long term relationship ending is painful but with the added ingredients here I imagine it's doubly so. I read Irish's comment on your earlier post and, as you realised then, alternatives were limited. You've done what you had to do and, of course, there's always a possibility the shock to your partners status quo will encourage a seeking out of treatment. A positive from a negative. It could happen. Take care. James.

In response to:A parting of the ways

Sat, 21 Jul 2007 14:52:43 +0200

plz answer my Q

In response to:Help me out here ...

Tue, 10 Jul 2007 11:57:22 +0200

Well, it's a tricky one. I'm just about to move to northern Italy to see if that has anything better to offer than the UK and although I'm excited and can't wait for the challenge, there's a part of me that knows I'll return to the UK. I definately won't be returning for the weather but for the fact that all the people that I know and love live here; it has everything I've grown up with and all the people that I love to drink wine with. So, I think what I'm saying is that I'll explore other countries and I'll spend time in places that are warmer and have better tv but the UK will always be my home.

In response to:Progress the Destroyer

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 16:44:08 +0200

I do sometimes inadvertently let my mind wander but, at my age, there is some concern that it'll wander off completely so I like to keep it tethered if at all possible.
Seriously, now I'm big it is in my mind that I play. At 58 you cannot really make a ship out of a cardboard box or a horse out of a fallen tree branch and sit there whooping and hollering for all your worth (not without the risk of being committed anyway) so it all has to happen inside the head.
I know what you mean about the train of thought meandering down unexpected paths.

In response to:Progress the Destroyer

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 08:40:10 +0200

As well as being aware of your random thoughts, you also need something to bring your focus back to time and again, such as your breathing. Then you really will be meditating, and you will get a taste of real peace.

In response to:Progress the Destroyer

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 03:13:03 +0200

Nothing like a trip down memory lane on a quiet Sunday afternoon. As I get older, since mum's passing especially, I sometimes find myself doing the exact same thing. One day it's there in your life, next, you turn around and it's gone. Sometimes the mundane stuff can have more of an effect on us, then we realize, at the time.

In response to:Progress the Destroyer

Mon, 09 Jul 2007 01:44:21 +0200

I was never bored in my youth as I spent time playing with the neighbor hood kids. We never stopped playing outside!

In response to:A bit of a sticky patch?

Thu, 05 Jul 2007 09:08:12 +0200

Pleased you took my comment in a positive light because that is how it was meant. I can't hide behind the door if there is something to say, as I am sure you realise by now. :DD

Hope you get something sorted mate.

In response to:A bit of a sticky patch?

Thu, 05 Jul 2007 04:31:20 +0200

QC, I truly am sorry. Must be incredibly difficult right now....xxxxx

In response to:A bit of a sticky patch?

Thu, 05 Jul 2007 00:11:48 +0200

Thanks Meno, yes it's a difficult time at the moment. I know I have to resolve this 'cus I can't do walking on eggshells all the time.

Will see what tomorrow brings.

In response to:A bit of a sticky patch?

Thu, 05 Jul 2007 00:07:00 +0200

Irish,

As so often you are of course correct. The only subtle difference I'd make is that I realised it some time ago but hoped it would improve .. (which could be code for stuck my head in the sand and hoped it would go away).

I do know I'm not going through another destructive cycle and will confront things this time. The reason I didn't before was I suspect I know the likely outcome, but this needs to stop for my sanity (or what passes as it).

Thanks

In response to:A bit of a sticky patch?

Wed, 04 Jul 2007 18:27:46 +0200

I am sorry to hear that QC. Must be difficult to see someone you love not get the medical treatment they need to improve the quality of their life. It is easy for your partner to blame you rather than accept responsibility for his mental health. Depression can be treated and their quality of life and also your quality of life could improve 1000-fold.

Good luck my friend.

In response to:A bit of a sticky patch?

Wed, 04 Jul 2007 10:57:49 +0200

After that amount of time Q-C I reckon it is time to get tough. If he aint gonna see a doctor then there is little that can be done about it.

Think a bit of an ultimatum is called for here. We don't go into relationships to be made unhappy. When he is having his better times he should realise that there is a problem and do something about it.

Depression is an illness, which can be treated. If he doesn't want the treatment then he is putting your relationship in jepardy. Perhaps it is time you both realised that and did something about it either together or individually.

In response to:Two schtoopid questions .. maybe

Tue, 03 Jul 2007 14:04:57 +0200

Profound. Not schtoo-pid. I think that people assume that just because you are formally educated, you are smart and that is not true. You could be daft emotionally, psychologically, mental, socially...and so on.

And the non-smoking bit, will take a while to condition yourself NOT to ask.

Have a great holiday!

Cheers

In response to:Two schtoopid questions .. maybe

Tue, 03 Jul 2007 00:06:08 +0200

hmm... I've met a lot (and I mean a serious amount) of crooked doctors in my time, but most physios (FWIW) have been real people people.

In response to:Rain like I've never seen

Thu, 28 Jun 2007 02:28:56 +0200

I can not believe the rain over in the UK! Goes to show you how powerful Mother Nature is.

In response to:Rain like I've never seen

Wed, 27 Jun 2007 22:35:38 +0200

i was so shocked when watching it unfolding on the news. People, me included, often under-estimate the power of the weather!

I do have to wonder though how long it'll be before someone blames the government!

In response to:So how old is too old for the BBC

Tue, 26 Jun 2007 16:19:17 +0200

It's absolutely ridiculous. They are both good presenters with gravitas. I am sick of 'know all, know nothing' thirty year olds everywhere. There is one in particular on this site who gets right up my nose. Youth is no subsitute for experience.